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Originally Posted by Teeny
Cait, I can't understand this modern trend of calling the "reception" or cup of tea after a funeral The Wake. Being of Irish decent The Wake was the time family and friends sat up at night with the corpes, before Funeral parlous had their chaple of rest. There was no where else for the body to be but in it's own home. I can tell you it wasn't a very pleasant time to be living in a house like that, don't know about having a good time at the Wake!!! Did any one else experience that? Teeny
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Having a cup of tea and calling it a Wake? Whatever next ................
Your right as you say
A Wake was when they celebrated an older persons passing over and waking on the other side
They would never have it for a child
The body was laid out on the bed or open coffin
Food, alchohol, cigarettes (pipe baccy for the pipe smokers) was laid on
Sit round the body telling stories, drinking, singing, playing music till the day of the funeral
The modern equivalent was the body in a open coffin in a cleared room in the house
Which I never found an unpleasant experience
Visitors keep popping in and out the other room, paying their last respects
Sit round in another room with family, friends and neighbours, telling stories, having a few drinks
And when friends and neighbours are gone, the close family keep popping in the other room that has the coffin, throughout the night till the day of the funeral
A lot of people nowadays use a Chapel of Rest
And the body is mostly lying alone throughout the day, and all through the night till the funeral
I find that to be an unpleasant experience
At one time older members of the family prepared the bodies of family or friends (the laying out)
It was just a fact of life
And younger members saw dead members of the family or relations all the time
Which prepared you later to prepare the funeral for a loved one
Nowadays some people can't cope, as they have never been through any learning process
Which after all must come to us all
All I can say is, by my experience the 'old ways are best' ...........